Well, we got MARRIED! And everything they say is 100% true...it went by in a snap, it felt perfect even though a few things fell out of place, and it was more amazing than anything we ever could have imagined. Sappy, but true.
And you know what else is true? Wedding planning is overwhelming and crazy stressful at times. Enter Etsy...simultaneously both the greatest and most evil thing to ever happen to brides. I just couldn't stop buying things off this website. It had control over me. As much as I tried, it sucked me in, and there was always something else that I absolutely needed. (Side note, some of these items that I absolutely needed got lost on the big day, never made their way to the party, and yet everything was still perfect. True story.)
Curious as to when my crazy Etsy shopping rampage would end, I polled another recent bride friend. She told me, with a completely serious look on her face, "You'll finally stop buying things off Etsy when you get to the point where you have to start paying for expedited shipping." Sadly, she was right. Then, and only then, did the Etsy addiction cease.
I actually felt at peace with the wedding planning thing until that last six weeks or so when all of a sudden it felt like I needed to run an entire marathon in order to make it to the big day. And I'm horrible at running. I hate running...
Fortunately, I learned a few things through this whole crazy wedding planning journey. Some things became apparent very early on in our engagement. I wrote about them here. Other things were discovered a bit later on in the process...like these four important questions that you are going to want to be sure to ask your wedding vendors before the big day.
- Photos - Super important part of the day! You are going to be insanely antsy to see the finished product as soon as the day is over, and you are going to want the digital files so that you don't have to pay 20 bucks a pop to fill all those picture frames that you've added to your registry. If your photographer gives you the option to buy out the digital files, do it. Just make sure you ask how long you have to wait to get the digital files. Also, ask if the digital file package is hi-res or lower quality. I've heard a vicious rumor that some photographers provide lower quality images so that you can't print much larger than 4x6 on your own. That's just playing dirty.
- Vendor setup - Rome wasn't built in a day, and your decor set-up won't be immediate either. Make sure you ask your venue what time your vendors can get in to start working their magic. And get it in writing. Better yet, get everything in writing when it comes to your wedding vendor contracts.
- Menu tasting - Food tasting may be the most fun part of the entire wedding planning process. Be prepared to feast like royalty! However, you should ask what happens if you walk away from your tasting with a few question marks. What if you pick two salads to try at the tasting and don't end up liking either option? Can you go back to try again? Will there be an extra fee? It happens. And you should know going in how your caterer handles the situation.
- Day of kit - If you don't have a wedding coordinator, you need to make your own day of emergency kit. There are a million examples online, and you'll be so happy that you've done it. If you do have a wedding coordinator, they almost certainly have their own. Your job is to ask what's in it. May seem obvious, but it's worth a double check to be sure they've covered the basics, or to see if there's anything you need to supplement. Case in point...my husband's tux button fell off in the middle of our family photo hour, right before we walked down the aisle. The events that followed are a bit of a wedding-bliss, bridal-induced haze, so the details are a little unclear, but I do remember that successfully finding both black thread and a needle was like actually looking in a haystack. So just check the emergency kit to see what you're working with before you send your bridesmaids on a frantic treasure hunt at the eleventh hour.
What are some of the most important lessons you learned while planning your wedding? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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